Alone With God
The feeling of loneliness is loud, uncomfortable, painful, and gut-wrenching. It finds a way to make its presence known even when it’s uninvited, forcing you to feel small and often unworthy. Unworthy of true relationships, joy, love, and light. There is no peace when loneliness is all you’ve ever known. It does not discriminate or attach itself to one gender, race, or religion. When you allow the feeling of being alone into your life, it starts to see your soul as home if you allow it. I am tired of welcoming this energy into my living space, while giving it room to nestle and grow. I am choosing to dispose of the unwelcome guest and instead, I invite the Lord to take a seat at my table.
The enemy often uses our weakness and trauma to keep us in the dark. He uses painful memories and discomfort to distance us from our Father, which is why it’s so important to know that we can always take refuge in the Lord. When we choose to open our hearts to God, change occurs, growth sprouts and strength is built. We don’t have to fight this battle alone when our Father is the mighty one. He delivers. He protects. He uplifts his children.
In Psalm 91:1 it says, “he who dwells in the building of the most high, will abide in the shadow of the Almighty”. God loves to use his spirit to strengthen and protect his children, because of his undying love for us. We must learn to take refuge in the Lord by opening our hearts and coming to him with our heartache. Lay it all on him and he will deliver you. Trusting in the Lord and having faith in his promises is the key to salvation.
Here are four simple things you can do to find solitude in loneliness with God:
Prayer is one of the most powerful and lasting things we can do as followers of Christ. Choose prayer in discomfort, in sadness, in fear, in loneliness - you will find God’s grace in these moments. Prayer is as simple as having an intimate and open conversation with the Lord. God is always listening, which is why we should always pray first and foremost. You can pray the following:
Father God, I ask that you come to me and make your presence known in my life. When I am sad, Lord, I wish to feel your comfort. When I feel lost and confused, help me find my way back to you. And when I am lonely, please remind me that you are always near. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
- A Mindset Shift
Instead of looking at yourself as lonely, see yourself as someone who God is guiding with the gift of introspection and discovery. It’s important to remember that God isn’t doing ‘it’ to us, but for us. Maybe your relationship has ended, you lost your job or had a failed business. That chapter has closed, but God is calling you to enter a season of new beginnings and growth. You can shift your mindset with prayer or gratitude, as it’s hard to be grateful and unhappy at the same time. Exercise and movement are also great ways to shift your mindset out of despair; dance, play sports, go for a walk, or simply jump up and down.
Motion = Emotion.
If you want to feel good, get moving.
- Practice Vulnerability
Vulnerability is the act of exposing ourselves. In this case, it means to choose to express our pain, fear, or anger in order to find peace. Vulnerability is a beautiful emotion and state of being, as it takes true courage and confidence. It’s never easy to act out of fear, but we can trust that God will see us through it. Choose to be vulnerable with the Lord, a parent, sibling, friend, or confidant. Although we may tell ourselves that we are alone and without anyone to turn to, it’s not always true. God has placed special people in our lives for moments like this. Who has God placed in your life that you can confide in? If you don’t have someone like this in your life, use the power of prayer and open up to the Lord.
Vulnerability may cause discomfort, but that’s where growth is.
- Read the Word
The word of God holds all the answers we seek if we are willing to look and read. There is no greater book that can teach us like the bible, and in this book are answers to see us through loneliness. In John 14:16 Jesus said, “I am the way, and the truth and the life” - follow in the footsteps of Christ, and there, everything will be revealed to us. God gave us his only son and a helper in the Holy Spirit so we can successfully navigate life and find peace. The great thing about reading the word is that we often gain insight we weren’t looking for to begin with.
For fear: Psalm 46:1
For doubt: Matthew 8:26
For courage: Ephesians 6:10-18
For comfort: 1 Peter 5:6-7
The process of finding solitude is not an easy one. It requires us to consciously choose solitude over any other negative emotion. The choice is like a muscle, the more we use it, the stronger we become.
Kerry-Ann Kimberly Daley