Have you ever had that relative, co-worker, or friend come to you for advice? Or maybe they didn’t come to you but you seized the opportunity to lend your big sis capabilities.
After you impart your wisdom in the area they are seeking help in you get to watch how that person grows from the conversation. It seems they do good for a bit, or perhaps they ignore your advice completely. Sometimes, it’s like you just watch them walk in the wrong direction, and your cries for them to turn around are to no avail.
I have done it several times, at different points in my life. And recently, God brought it to my attention that while I was watching from the sidelines I was taking their mistakes on as an offense all in the name of Jesus. I had all these burdens that didn’t even belong to me. And you know God smacked me right into shape with simple words:
“that’s my child, not yours. So why are you mad?”
I realized in that moment that I had to ask myself, who was I to have the audacity to be upset? How many times have I been disobedient? How many times have I repeated the same mistakes and said I’ll do better, only to take a turn for the worse? How many times did I even avoid seeking advice myself because I was afraid of the truth? I just wanted to do what I wanted to do.
So I finally came to the reality that I was getting in God’s way. All that I’ve been called to do is be loving, merciful, impart grace, forgiving, relatable, and a voice of truth and reason to those that God places in my path.
After that, my job is done. God can handle the rest on His own. Even Paul had this to say about it:
“But that does not mean we want to dominate you by telling you how to put your faith into practice. We want to work together with you so you will be full of joy, for it is by your own faith that you stand firm.”
2 Corinthians 1:24 NLT
People have to walk out their own faith. No matter how much wisdom we give them, it’s their responsibility to work it out in their own life. The next time someone comes to you for help, remember these simple rules so you don’t get caught up like I did:
- Do your part, share, be honest and listen.
- Let it go, what happens from there is not your responsibility.
- Be a place of continuous open arms after, the same way you needed in the past and still need at times today.
Obviously, don’t let anyone take advantage of you. But sometimes in life we just don’t know better. And as I reflect, even when we know better we still don’t do better. So be the one full of grace that says, no matter how much you fall, I know you will get better. Be the grace to someone else that you yourself need.
Keep your crown up,