Humility. An attribute that we admire so much in people. Like anything, there are good and bad sides to it. Did you know there was such a thing as false humility? It has a selfish motive disguised in humbleness.
Sometimes people can have a manipulative motive and can attempt to take on a humble trait in order to get their way. Other times it may stem from insecurity or a need for attention. How do you know if you or someone else is exerting false humility? Here are just a few examples to watch out for:
- Excited to hear the great things people say about their accomplishments. This doesn’t seem like false humility. But, it’s all about the reaction afterward that you can tell if this fits them. When they look forward to or almost ask for the words of affirmation but as soon as they are given its quickly downplayed as if they don’t desire it or it’s turned into “but all the praise should go to God”.
- Broadcast all their charitable efforts. There is a proper time and place to explain some of the things a person is doing in the community. If a discussion of all their efforts is given at every convenient moment and leans toward a focus of glorifying how great they are at doing such things, you can be sure that a truly humble heart is not behind it. They just want you to know how good they are for doing good things.
- Serving with the expectation of gain. Their service needs to be rewarded or should have a returned favor in exchange for their great sacrifice. True humbleness serves without looking for anything in return. And they would do it again that way in a heartbeat as long as someone is getting the help they need.
These are just a few, there are so many more that you can notice if you pay attention. Ultimately, true humbleness speaks for itself and does not seek out its own agenda. If that’s you, surrender, admit it and learn how you can grow out of the need for someone to acknowledge all that you do. When we really learn to serve others and not ourselves we discover a brand new reward in life that is unspeakable.
Keep your crown up,